Let’s first start by defining what a meaningful relationship is:
“A meaningful relationship is one that’s open and honest in a way that lets people be straight with each other” — Ray Dalio
- Who can you tell it to when they’re on the wrong path, in health, wealth, love and happiness?
- Who tells you when that happens do you?
- How many people are open and honest with you?
- How many people do you dare be open and honest with?
I’m willing to bet it’s hard to come up with a large list of people for these questions.
Ideally, you would have the same names in all lists. It’s a relationship after all! If you are open and honest with someone and vice versa, then it’s a truly meaningful relationship.
Why It Matters
Identifying your meaningful relationships is important to understand who to 1) go to in times of need, and 2) get valuable feedback on important decisions.
It is the people you surround yourself with in business and in life. It’s your business partners, your spouse, your parents, your children, etc.
A meaningful relationship is strong. You know the other person’s got your back. If something is wrong, they’ll tell you straight, and you’ll grow from it.
You don’t grow from people hiding the truth from you. It might feel good initially to not face the brutal truth, but it will eventually hurt when you fall.
I learned to embrace the brutal truth a few years ago. I can’t remember the exact point in time, but I know since then I’ve had more “success” in whatever I’m doing since then.
I’m happily married and our relationship is based on trust. We can tell each other the brutal truth. We’re stronger for it. We’ve been together 14 years. I’m only 31.
In business, I try to surround myself with people who won’t shy away from telling me when I do something wrong. I always ask for feedback from people I trust. In return, they trust that I’ll do the same.
Obviously, there are ways to give brutally honest feedback, and not everyone can word it properly, but sometimes you have to read between the lines.
I personally like when someone tells me something I did is s***, provided they have points to back their opinion up.
You don’t have to agree with everything, but that’s what being “open” means. Understand and value the person’s opinion, and make up your own opinion based on that.
Take time to reflect on the meaningful relationships you have. Make a list. Make those connections even stronger.
Strive to build more relationships based on openness and honesty. You’ll grow as a person and you’ll become a better business partner, spouse, parent, etc.
You can do this!
Thanks for reading and sharing! :)
First published here: https://medium.com/swlh/how-many-meaningful-relationships-do-you-have-and-why-does-it-matter-1abd53568e4e